Monday, February 14

Venting, before it explodes

I just don't get it. I have been on both sides of the monster called 'child support.' How some just simply ignore and get away with ignoring a COURT order is beyond me. The name itself implies failure means "I don't care". It is a monster... easier to work with on the payment side, I just report my annual income, and they take care of all the if, how and where. This is... or can't you read... (CHILD) support. Its not spousal support.  Someone I know got me thinking real hard about this. If my money is now out of the picture and my x can and does support, feed and house MY child.... do you see what I am driving at? Having a child does not end when said child is not living under your roof. 
     Yes I have known divorced parents, "I'm not paying that f,n bit_ _ " doesn't fly to well with me. I had custody and an x that pulled that number, even though I am a man. The fact that you would let personal differences get in the way of YOUR child's welfare speaks volumes about you as a person. Enough said, I think you get my point.
Posted by Neo at 2/14/2011 10:03:00 AM

1 comment:

Eowyn said...

For the most part I absolutely agree with you. Too many people (men and women) withhold the child's vital resources simply out of spite.

The reverse can happen too, though. I know someone who was assessed $500 a week for his daughter, which he gladly paid -- until he became disabled. He went back to court to petition for a lower payment, but instead his ex-wife's lawyer convinced the judge to RAISE that amount. Needless to say, he is so far behind he'll never catch up. His daughter is grown now, and successful on her own -- and she knows the whole situation, and doesn't blame her father, luckily. But the ex-wife STILL wants her money. (In spite of remarrying a wealthy man shortly after the divorce.)

In my own case, my ex-husband couldn't afford much, so I didn't ask for more than he could pay. We worked it out together for the good of our girls, the best we could. Sadly, very few people can do that.

February 15, 2011 at 11:25 AM

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