Spoons and Sticks

One of 2 things, I know its customary and proper but if I ask for a cup of coffee the next question is "cream or sugar?" the answer from me would be no thanks. So what's with the spoon? In fact, the few times I do take cream I will drop the cream in the coffee and no stir needed, sorta the "clouds in my coffee" reference.

Relates a bit to my visit to a drinkery, bar, club or what ever you call that one. Jim Beam on the rocks requires no stir stick, yet every time I order this drink, a stir stick is put in maybe 2

Well ok I'll give you that one, the stir stick is to stir up the water flowing off the ice cubes as they melt.